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Advice and General Questions Answered

  Shaykh ʿUbayd ibn ʿAbdullāh al-Jābirī

A general advice to the Salafīs of Toronto (June, 03) overviewing the roles and responsibilities of Ahl al-Sunnah living in this land. The noble Shaykh and Scholar of al-Madīnah quotes numerous āyāt and aḥādīth detailing these issues. After this general advice, the ʿAllāmah invited the community to pose their questions.

Benefit: A Husband Assisting His Wife with Household Chores Doesn’t Diminish or Negate His Masculinity

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

Shaykh Muḥammad ibn ʿUmar Bāzmūl (حفظه الله) stated:

A man assisting his wife in the house doesn’t diminish or negate his masculinity, nor does it hinder his protection and maintenance of her.

Imām al-Bukhārī reported that al-Aswad said: "I asked ʿĀishah (رضي الله عنها): 'What did the Prophet (ﷺ) use to do inside his house?’ She answered: 'He use to keep himself busy serving the members of his family, and when it was time for the prayer, he would leave."

'Serving the members of his family’ meaning, assisting them in the different tasks that were binding upon them.


Translator's note:

There has come in some narrations a description of some of the things that he (ﷺ) would do in the house. ʿUrwah said: "I said to ʿĀishah (رضي الله عنها): 'O Mother of the Believers! What did the Prophet (ﷺ) use to do when he was with you?' She said: 'He would do what any of you would do when serving the members of your family. He would mend his sandals, sew his thowb, and patch his bucket."[Reported by Ibn Ḥibbān, and authenticated by Shaykh al-Albānī.]

Source: https://www.facebook.com/mohammadbazmool/posts/1121311527987332

Translated by: Musa Shaleem Mohammed

Benefit: A Neglected Beneficial Type of Gift

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

  It has become commonplace when one is told: “I have a gift for you”, that he looks toward the hand of the gifter to see if he is carrying something or waits for him to reach in his pocket, forgetting that from types of gifts one can receive—which is indeed considered to be from the best, most honourable and beautiful types of gifts—is the matter of knowledge. None can comprehend the magnitude of this type of gift except those who know the [true] status of knowledge. Ibn al-Qayyim mentions:

((وإنما الهدية النافعة كلمة يهديها الرجل الى أخيه المسلم))
Verily the beneficial gift is a word [of truth] a man gifts to his brother in Islām.

Shaykh ʿAbd al-Razzāq ibn ʿAbd al-Muḥsin al-ʿAbbād

Source: الهدية النافعة
Translated by: Munīb al-Ṣumālī

Benefit: Actions Speak Louder than Words

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

Shaykh Muḥammad Amān ibn ʿAlī al-Jāmī (رحمه الله) stated: “Friendliness, gentleness, pleasant speech, and good deeds appeal to people.”

قال الشيخ (رحمه الله): الإحسان إلى الناس والكلام الطيّب وعدم العنف والبِر وفعل الخير بهذا تستميل الناس

Source: كيف نربي شبابنا على الدعوة إلى الله
Translated by: Musa Shaleem Mohammed

Benefit: Activeness in Calling the People to the Truth

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

Shaykh Ibn Bāz mentioned: That which is required from the people of knowledge is that they spread it (knowledge) and that they do not let the people of falsehood be more active than them in this. Rather, they are obligated to be more active than the people of falsehood by clarifying the truth and calling towards it wherever they may be; in the streets, in the cars, in the planes, in space shuttles, in their homes and any place they may be. It is upon the people of knowledge to forbid the evil in the best manner possible, to teach the people in the best way possible, with a good approach, kindness and forbearance. Allāh said:

Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and good instruction, and argue with them in a way that is best.
[Sūrah al-Naḥl, 16:125]

Source: Majmūʿ al-Fatāwá of Shaykh Ibn Bāz 9-223.
Translated by: Munīb al-Ṣumālī

Benefit: As for You, O Poor Small Student Who Is Weak in Knowledge, Do Not Debate!

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

Shaykh Rabīʿ ibn Hādī al-Madkhalī (ḥafiẓahullāh):

The statement of al-Imām Aḥmad about al-Qadar,

"Not to debate or argue with anyone, and not to learn argumentation."

There are from amongst the small students of knowledge, who go and debate with the Rāfiḍah, the Jahmīyyah, and the Muʿtazilah concerning the divine decree, debating with them in these affairs. Do not subject yourself to doubts (for indeed they lead you to being) astray. However, the skillful scholar, who knows that he will be able to benefit with such debates, either aiding the Sunnah or subduing the people of falsehood, or even maybe Allāh will guide the one whom the scholar is debating. If he is seeking the truth, then the scholar is to clarify the issue to him.

As for you, the poor small student who is weak in knowledge, do not debate! I emphasise this point to the students of knowledge that you should not debate concerning the likes of these very serious innovations. As for the normal affairs that you know, and they are in the limits of your abilities, and you fully understand them, then there is no problem for you to discuss them, as long as the intention is not to debate and gain victory, but rather the goal is for clarification.1

[1] Taken from: 'An Explanation of Imām Aḥmad's Foundations of the Sunnah' by Shaykh Rabīʿ ibn Hādī al-Madkhalī, pg.113-114

Benefit: Corrupt Character

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

Shaykh ʿAbd al-Razāq al-Badr mentioned: Whoever worships other than Allāh possesses the worst of characters. Where is the character in a man who was created, provided for, favoured with blessings, gifted health and safety by Allāh, then worships and turns towards other than Allāh? For this reason, ill character is tied to shirk. Everyone who directs worship to other than Allāh has bad manners. This is because the individual’s shirk is part of his character. Rather, it [i.e. shirk] is the most atrocious aspect of his character.

Do not be deceived by some of the good dealings you may find with some of the disbelievers because it is only for worldly gains and other objectives. They do not observe good conduct hoping to be rewarded by Allāh on the meeting day.

Source: فساد الخلق
Translated by: Munīb al-Ṣumālī

Benefit: Criticising Food?

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

Kick a Bad Habit Today

Criticizing Food

قال الإمامُ مسلمٌ في صحيحِهِ، في كتابِ الأَشْرِبَةِ، بابٌ لا يَعِيبُ الطَّعامَ:

Imām Muslim collected the following ḥadīth in his Ṣaḥīḥ, in the Book of Drinks, under the chapter entitled: (The Believer) Does Not Criticize Food:


2064 _  حدَّثنا يحيى بنُ يحيى، وزُهَيْرُ بنُ حَرْبٍ، وإسحاقُ بنُ إبراهيمَ _ قال زُهَيْرٌ: حدَّثنا، وقال الآخرانِ: _ أخبرنا جَرِيرٌ، عَنِ الأعمشِ، عن أبي حازمٍ، عن أبي هُرَيْرَةَ، قال: ما عاب رسولُ اللهِ _ صلَّى اللهُ عليه وسلَّم _ طعامًا قطُّ، كان إذا اشتهى شيئًا أكله، وإنْ كَرِهَهُ تركه


(#2064) Abū Hurayrah said, "The Messenger of Allāh (ṣallallāhu ʿalayhī wa-sallam) never criticized food ever.  If he wanted something, he would eat it.  If he disliked it, he would leave it."


وفي رِوَايَةٍ: ما رأيتُ رسولَ الله _ صلَّى اللهُ عليه وسلَّم _ عاب طعامًا قَطُّ، كان إذا اشتهاه أَكَلَهُ، وإنْ لَمْ يَشْتَهِهِ سَكَتَ


In another narration he said, "I never saw the Messenger of Allāh (ṣallallāhu ʿalayhī wa-sallam) criticize food ever.  If he wanted it, he would eat it.  If he did not want it, he would remain silent."

Benefit: Deal with Your Wives as You Wish for Your Daughters to be Dealt With

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

Know that you must honour your wife in your dealings with her as (you would expect from) the man married to your daughter. How would he deal with her? Would you be pleased that he deals with her in a harsh and cruel manner? The answer is No!

So do not feel content in dealing with the daughters of others in a manner that you would not be pleased for your daughter to be dealt with. Everyone should know this principle.


Shaykh Muḥammad ibn Ṣāliḥ al-ʿUthaymīn 

Source: Sharḥ al-Mumtiʿ 12/381 

Translated by: Munīb al-Ṣumālī

Benefit: Good Manners Are From Salafiyyah!

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

One doubt often presented by the people of innovation is that the Salafīs are harsh and that they pay no attention to manners. What it is intended by this false claim is to turn Muslims away from the correct belief and methodology. In a Kitāb at-Tawḥīd class, our brother Abū al-ʿAbbās Mūsá Richardson, may Allāh reward him, responds to this incorrect notion. Manners, as mentioned by our brother, are very important in our religion. Listen to this brief benefit. May Allāh guide you and us to the Straight Path. Learn the true Salafī position on manners. For a detailed study, be sure to grab the book, Upright Moral Character by Shaykh Muḥammad ibn Ṣāliḥ al-ʿUthaymīn, rahimahulllāh. 

For more on the topic, check out Class 57 from the Explanation of Kitāb at-Tawḥīd [class audio].


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Benefit: Guard Your Tongue Even From the Innovator

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

Shaykh Rabīʿ, may Allāh preserve him was asked:

[Q]: Is it permissible for us to insult those whom the scholars have insulted?

هل يجوز لنا أن نسب من سبه أهل العلم؟

[A]: Insulting, no you should not insult. If he was declared an innovator and there is a need to clarify his condition then clarify. Say so and so is a mubtad'i (innovator), so and so has such and such with him. As for insulting then no, no insulting, do not insult if the scholars insulted him, you do not insult even if they judged him with a judgment that is rightful. If you see people being influenced by him in a harmful way then clarify his condition, so that the people can be cautious of his evil and safe from his evil. As for insulting then no, it does not benefit.

 السب ، لا ما تسب ، لكن إذا بُدع واحتجت إلى بيان حاله لنصح الناس فبين ، تقول فيه ، فلان مبتدع ، فلان عنده كذا ، أما السب فلا ، السب لا ، لا تسبه ، إذا سبه ، أنت لا تسبه ، إذا حكم عليه بحكم هو حق فيه ، وإذا رأيت أناسا يتضررون به ، فأنت عليك أن تبين حاله ، حتى يحذر الناس من شره ويسلمون من شره ، وأما السب فلا ، ولا يفيد


Original Source: http://www.sahab.net/forums/showthread.php?t=375222
Translated by: Abū Zayd Muḥammad Sheikh-Elmi

Benefit: Harm None

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

Al-Fuḍayl ibn ʿIyād stated: By Allāh, you are not permitted to inflict harm on a dog or a pig without just cause. How could you then harm a Muslim?1
 
1) Muḥammad ibn Aḥmad ibn ʿUthmān al-Thahabī [d. 1374], Siyar Aʿlām al-Nubʿalá [al-Risālah, 1st ed. (1402), 8:427].

Benefit: Learn to Taste Knowledge

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

Shaykh Ṣāliḥ ibn al-Fawzān, may Allāh preserve him, said: "Knowledge is not acquired except through learning, and learning demands solicitude, diligence, effort, time, comprehension, and a conscious heart."1

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 (1) Al-Fawzān, Sharḥ al-Uṣūl al-Thalāthah.

Benefit: Listen Attentively Even if You Know

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

When one informs you regarding an affair of the religion or a matter regarding worldly affairs which you already have knowledge of, it is from good character that you do not dispute it. Rather, you listen attentively as if you have not come across this (information) before and (act like) you have benefitted from him, like the intelligent men use to do.

The benefits of this are, inspiration and delight for the narrator [i.e. as opposed to rejecting his narration], safeguarding yourself from self-amazement and safeguarding yourself from bad character because disputing with the narrator over the narration is considered bad character.

Shaykh ʿAbd al-Raḥmān Nāṣir al-Ṣaʿdī

Source: al-Riyādh al-Nāḍirah pg. 548.
Translated by: Munīb al-Ṣumālī

Translator's note: There are many examples from the Salaf with regards to listening attentively to the narrator as if you have never come across that which he is narrating to you, even if in reality you have. From these examples is that of Muādh ibn Sʿad al-ʾAʿawar, who said: “I was sitting with ʿAṭā ibn Abī Rabāḥ whilst a man narrated a narration, and then one of the men present elaborated upon the narration to which ʿAṭā ibn Abī Rabāḥ replied, ‘What is this behaviour?’ I listen to the narration of a man whilst I have more knowledge concerning that narration than him, but I (act like) I don’t know anything.” [Rawdat al-ʿUqalā pg. 72].

Benefit: Reciprocate Bad Treatment with Kindness

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

Ibn al-Qayyim (raḥimahullāh) stated: "So whoever loves that Allāh would reciprocate his bad deeds with goodness, then he should reciprocate the bad treatment that he receives from others with kindness. And whoever knows that sins and bad deeds are innate to mankind, then he would not make a big deal of the bad treatment that he receives from others."1
 
1) (مفتاح دار السعادة: 2/826)

Benefit: Requirements Concerning the Blessings of Allāh

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

Question: How should one be thankful for blessings? And what are we—as Muslims—required to do with all these innumerous and incalculable blessings?

Answer:
That which is required is to be thankful for the blessings, and showing gratitude for blessings guarantees the continuity [of blessings being bestowed upon you]. 

Allāh said:

 وَإِذْ تَأَذَّنَ رَبُّكُمْ لَئِنْ شَكَرْتُمْ لأَزِيدَنَّكُمْ وَلَئِنْ كَفَرْتُمْ إِنَّ عَذَابِي لَشَدِيدٌ
And (remember) when your Lord proclaimed: "If you give thanks, I will give you more, but if you are thankless, verily! My Punishment is indeed severe.”
[Sūrah Ibrāhīm, 14:7]


Gratitude has three pillars of which it cannot be called gratitude without:

Firstly: Acknowledging the blessings of Allāh inwardly, so that you know in yourself and in your heart that all these blessings come from Allāh, and that it is a favour from Him which he has bestowed upon you and the Muslims.

Secondly: Openly proclaim (the blessings of Allāh), Allāh mentions:

 وَأَمَّا بِنِعْمَةِ رَبِّكَ فَحَدِّثْ
And proclaim the Grace of your Lord
[Surah al-Ḍuḥá, 93:11]
 
So proclaim the blessings of Allāh and thank Him for it. Remind your brothers of these blessings and incite them to show gratitude (to Allāh for these blessings).

Thirdly: Utilising (the blessings) accordingly in obedience to Allāh.

Shaykh Ṣāliḥ ibn Fawzān al-Fawzān

Source: الواجب إتجاه النعم
Translated by: Munīb al-Ṣumālī

Benefit: Serving the Youth on the Right or the Elder on the Left?


In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

Our brother Mūsá Richardson discusses a ḥadīth in which the Prophet (ṣallallāhu ʿalayhī wa-sallam) was in a gathering of elders and young men.  On his right was the youngest of the people from the tribe, and on his left were the elders from the tribe.  The Prophet (ṣallallāhu ʿalayhī wa-sallam) was given a drink and desired to give it to the elder on the left....did he give it to the elder on the left or did he give it to the youth on the right? Listen to find out.

A part from the series of lectures titled, Selections from 30 Ḥadīth on Raising Children - Advice for Parents and Educators.


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Benefit: The Humility of the Messenger of Allāh

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

There comes a Ḥadīth in the Musnad of Imām Aḥmad (raḥimuhullāḥ):

A man once said, “O Muḥammad! [You are] our chief and the son of our chief! The best of us and the son of the best of us.” 

The Messenger of Allāh (ṣallallāhu ʿalayhi wa-sallam) replied: “O people! Upon you is to hold fast to taqwá (piety) and let not the Shayṭān allure you. I am Muḥammad the son of ʿAbdullāh; I am a servant and Messenger of Allāh; I do not like for you to raise me above my level which I have been stationed by Allāh.” 

Imām al-Albānī said its chain is ṣaḥīḥ according to the conditions of Muslim.

Source: al-Silsilah al-Ṣaḥīḥah, #1572.
Translated by: Munīb al-Ṣumālī

Benefit: The Innovation of Greeting People One-by-One When Entering a Gathering

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

Shaykh Muḥammad Nāṣir al-Dīn al-Albānī said: From among the widespread innovations of this time—of which none has the capability to point out except the one who is well acquainted with the Sunnah of the prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) and the Salaf al-Ṣālih—is that when a person enters and gives his salām, shakes hands (and from the perfection of the greetings is to shake hands even though the narration it comes in is weak but its meaning is correct), so he shakes hands but what is incorrect is that he gives salām [individually] to everyone he shakes hands with. So he says: “salāmu ʿalaykum, salāmu ʿalaykum, salāmu ʿalaykum", if there are twenty people in the gathering he gives twenty salāms; this is an innovation.

Rather, the Sunnah is that when a person enters upon a gathering that he say, “salāmu ʿalaykum” once, after this if it is possible for him to shake hands with those present in the gathering then that is better. If it is not possible for him to shake hands, he has accomplished the obligation of the Muslim giving salām to another Muslim—one fifth (of the rights a Muslim has upon a Muslim)—that if you come upon another Muslim, you give him salām. As for shaking hands, this is a recommended Sunnāh.

Like some of the companions have said:

We have not come upon the Messenger of Allāh (صلى الله عليه وسلم) except that we shook his hand.

So adding to the Sunnah al-Qawliyyah (the Prophet’s speech) or Sunnah al-Fiʿliyyah (the Prophet’s actions) is an innovation in its essence. For this reason, if it is said that adding good [to the sunnah] is good, [it is said] this speech will not save you because if it was truly good we would have been preceded in it (by the early generations). This is my advice.

Source: Silsilat al-Hudā wa-al-Nūr #181
Translated by: Munīb al-Ṣumālī 
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