Lectures: The Eleven Women Who Spoke About Their Husbands
Benefits from the Ḥadīth of Umm Zar'a
Abū Tasneem Dāwūd Adīb
Speaker: Abū Tasneem Dāwūd Adīb
Dates: Friday March 20th - Sunday March 22nd 2009
Location: Masjid al-Furqān & Islamic Centre (TROID) 874-A Weston Rd. Toronto, Canada (Weston/Black Creek) Google Map
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The Ḥadīth of Umm Zar'a (raḍī Allāhu 'anha)
Book 31, Number 5998
Narrated 'Āʿishahh (raḍī Allāhu 'anha)
'A'ishah reported that (one day) there sat together eleven women making an explicit promise amongst themselves that they would conceal nothing about their spouses.
The first one said: My husband is a sort of the meat of a lean camel placed at the top of a hill, which it is difficult to climb up, nor (the meat) is good enough that one finds in oneself the urge to take it away (from the top of that mountain).
The second one said: My husband (is so bad) that I am afraid I would not be able to describe his faults-both visible and invisible completely.
The third one said: My husband is a long-statured fellow (i. e. he lacks intelligence). If I give vent to my feelings about him, he would divorce me, and if I keep quiet I would be made to live in a state of suspense (neither completely abandoned by him nor entertained as his wife).
The fourth one said: My husband is like the night of Tihama (the night of Hijaz and Mecca), neither too cold nor hot, neither there is any fear of him nor grief.
The fifth one said: My husband is (like) a leopard as he enters the house, and behaves like a lion when he gets out, and he does not ask about that which he leaves in the house.
The sixth one said: So far as my husband is concerned, he eats so much that nothing is left back and when he drinks he drinks that no drop is left behind. And when he lies down he wraps his body and does not touch me so that he may know my grief.
The seventh one said: My husband is heavy in spirit, having no brightness in him, impotent, suffering from all kinds of conceivable diseases, heaving such rough manners that he may break my head or wound my body, or may do both.
The eighth one said: My husband is as sweet as the sweet-smelling plant, and as soft as the softness of the hare.
The ninth one said: My husband is the master of a lofty building, long-statured, having heaps of ashes (at his door) and his house is near the meeting place and the inn.
The tenth one said: My husband is Malik, and how fine Malik is, much above appreciation and praise (of mine). He has many folds of his camel, more in number than the pastures for them. When they (the camels) hear the sound of music they become sure that they are going to be slaughtered.
The eleventh one said: My husband is Abū Zar'a. How fine Abū Zar'a is! He has suspended in my ears heavy ornaments and (fed me liberally) that my tendons and bones are covered with fat. So he made me happy. He found me among the shepherds living in the side of the mountain, and he made me the owner of the horses, camels and lands and heaps of grain and he finds no fault with me. I sleep and get up in the morning (at my own sweet will) and drink to my heart's content. The mother of Abū Zar'a, how fine is the mother of Abū Zar'a! Her bundles are heavily packed (or receptacles in her house are filled to the brim) and the house quite spacious. So far as the son of Abū Zar'a is concerned, his bed is as soft as a green palm-stick drawn forth from its bark, or like a sword drawn forth from its scabbard, and whom just an arm of a lamb is enough to satiate. So far as the daughter of Abū Zar'a is concerned, how fine is the daughter of Abū Zar'a, obedient to her father, obedient to her mother, wearing sufficient flesh and a source of jealousy for her co-wife. As for the slave-girl of Abū Zar'a, how fine is she; she does not disclose our affairs to others (outside the four walls of the house). She does not remove our wheat, or provision, or take it forth, or squander it, but she preserves it faithfully (as a sacred trust). And she does not let the house fill with rubbish. One day Abū Zar'a went out (of his house) when the milk was churned in the vessels, that he met a woman, having two children like leopards playing with her pomegranates (chest) under her vest. He divorced me (Umm Zar'a) and married that woman (whom Abū Zar'a) met on the way. I (Umm Za'ra) later on married another person, a chief, who was an expert rider, and a fine archer: he bestowed upon me many gifts and gave me one pair of every kind of animal and said: Umm Zar'a, make use of everything (you need) and send forth to your parents (but the fact) is that even if I comibne all the gifts that he bestowed upon me, they stand no comparison to the least gift of Abū Zar'a.
'A'ishah reported that Allāh's Messenger (ṣallallāhu ʿalayhi wa-sallam) said to me: I am for you as Abū Zar'a was for Umm Zar'a.
This ḥadīth has been transmitted on the authority of Hisham ibn 'Urwa but with a slight variation of wording.