Steps in Cultivating Children and Family upon the Sunnah
Our brother, Abū Khadījah ʿAbd al-Wāḥid, relays the importance of the Sunnah. He gives a beautiful, attentive, emotional and warm-hearted advice in regards to marriage, children etc. A must-listen lecture, ponder over the advice he gives us with the aḍillah (evidence) from the Qurʾān, Sunnah and Salaf. Reflect upon this: pious men are for pious women! Wicked men are for wicked women! No matter what your outer appearance is, or how pious you look, who you are on the inside will eventually reflect on the outside! A must, must, MUST listen; you cannot miss out on this beneficial talk!
The Sunnah is the Sunnah!
The importance of finding a righteous spouse; think about who you'd want as a mother or father to your children. Think ahead with regard to piety. No father should allow his daughter to marry a man from Ahlul-bidʿah or Faasiq, they are not for our daughters! Nor for our sons! Why is it important to cultivate our children from a young age upon the Sunnah? How will it effect them in the long run? What are the benefits? Why is it important to have fixed questions before getting married in regards to selecting your spouse? How will they raise your children? What will the outcome be?
Fuḍayl Ibn ʿIyāḍ (d. 187) said:
“Whoever marries his beloved daughter to an innovator has cut off the ties of (her kinship) relationship with her.”
[Al-Barbahārī, An Explanation of the Creed, 137]
We, the people of the Sunnah are only interested in Ahl al-Sunnah. The wife is upon the religion of her husband, whatever her husband does she will do. Who would you give your beloved daughter to? The daughter you protected, nurtured and loved, would you want a mubtadiʿ or a fāsiq for her? A man who drinks, smokes, goes to dances, attends clubs, free mixes, shaves his beard, drags his garment below his ankles!? This is just a brief insight of what this talk is about!